Learning Negotiation Skills From Children

p>Children are good negotiators. They know thatterms and avoid tentative language that might
'no' means 'maybe', do not give up easily, and askinvite denial.
for more than they want.Their enthusiasm pumps up the customer
They do not take "No" for an answerDressed in her Girl Scout vest, Brie enthusiastically
Kids demand to know "Why". If they move pastexpected to close every sale. After introducing
the parental "Because I said so", they mayherself and the cookies, she asked the closing
overcome the objection. The adult equivalentquestion, "How many boxes do you want today?"
words in the sales negotiation context are, "TellShe had the order sheet and the pen in hand.
me about it." This phrase opens the door to frankWhen sales professionals lose enthusiasm, it tells
communication and dislodges the 'No' answer.the customer that there is no compelling reason
They are persistent and creativeto buy.
A rejection merely whets their creativity. On myThey use High Initial Demands (HID) to their
8-year-old daughter Brie's annual Girl Scout cookieadvantage
sale, a neighbor said that she had already bought.Kids train their "customers" by presenting HID. A
Brie countered, "The thin mints are especially goodfriend's daughter told her horrified father that she
as frozen treats". As the neighbor reconsidered,wanted a nose ring. He tried in vain to persuade
my budding sales pro added, "They are great forher of the hygienic and sociological risks.
snacks when guests arrive." The neighbor boughtPredictably, she burst into a tirade of how she
three boxes, and I relearned an excellent lesson.would be scarred for life without such a fashion
They listen and they ask the "What if" questionstatement. Caving to relentless pressure, her dad
Since kids hear 'no' as 'maybe', they relish thecompromised on his daughter's 'reluctant'
opportunity to convert 'no' to the 'yes' column.concession that she get pierced ears instead. To
For instance, Brie asked, "what if I do tomorrow'sreward her wisdom, and relieve his guilt, dad
homework today? Then Allison and I can go tothrew in a pair of earrings. On the way out the
the mall until dinner." While it would annoy a buyerdoor, she winked at me and whispered, "Wow, all
if we were to continually ask 'why', we refine it toI really wanted was pierced ears, but I got
the "What if" question to reach the same result.earrings too." Unskilled adult negotiators reject HID
For example, "What if we were to extend thein a naïve attempt to save time and effort.
price protection? Would that seal the deal?"Kids know better.
They do not use tentative languageKids can teach us many lessons about negotiation
Brie's "What if" question closes in the affirmative.that we have forgotten as we matured. We can
Confidence precedes the sale. They use optimisticlean much from their natural negotiation skills.