How You Say It

Hi,say something we can finish the sentence with:
In a number of issues of YSS I have talked aboutAn upward voice intonation
the words you use in a sellingsituation, but that isAn unchanged voice intonation
only part of the story.A downward / deeper voice intonation
It's not just the words you use but how you useTry it for yourself. Lets pick a sentence to say. "
them that makes a difference.You want to buy this "
And that reminds me of a joke.If you repeat that sentence and speak the last
You see there was this unfortunate man whotwo words in a higher pitched voice itsounds like
broke the law and went to prison. Hewas feelingyou are asking a question. In fact there are
very scared his first night alone in his cell.languages ( e.g. Italian ) whereyou indicate you are
After the lights went out he heard one of theasking a question by the intonation of the
other inmates in a cell quite a long wayoff shoutsentence. And guesswhat, these languages use
out "32". Then all the prisoners burst out laughing.that same higher-pitched voice tone to indicate a
When the laughtersubsided he heard anotherquestion isbeing asked.
inmate call out "66". Once again followed by aNext, say that sentence keeping your voice tone
burst oflaughter. This went on for some timeconstant. Different, isn't it. That toneis indicating
before they all fell to sleep.you are making a statement.
The man was intrigued by this behaviour.Finally, utter that same sentence again but say
The next morning during breakfast in the eatingthe last two words louder and deeper.
area the man gathered up his courageand spokeThis is command tonality. This command tonality
to one of the older prisoners and asked him whatis well utilised by hypnotists andcan, of course, be
was going on.used in hypnotic sales techniques too.
The older inmate said, "Many of us have been inHow is this useful in selling ?
here for a long time. There's notmuch you can doWell, when you make a comment like " This
when the lights go out. So, to amuse ourselvesproduct is the one you want". It has verylittle
we tell jokes. Butafter a while we all seemed topositive impact if you utter it with a question type
know all the jokes, so it became easier to justtonality. In fact, it sounds likeyou are asking a
give thejokes a number and just shout out thequestion and are not really sure if it's a good
number rather than taking all that time to tellproduct or the best oneto use.
thejoke."You have probably been told by your sales
Ahhh. Now it all made sense.manager or in a sales training course to bepositive
So, for the next few weeks, the man listened towhen you are in a sales call and assume you are
the numbers and found out whatgoing to make the sale. Thisspills over into your
jokecorresponded to what number and whichtonality so that you make statements with a
numbers got the biggest laughs.statement tonality ora command tonality rather
Finally, one night he decided to join in. After aboutthan using a questioning tonality.
five or six jokes had been told "bythe numbers".Mind you, you can use questioning tonality to your
He shouted out "22!" Nothing happened? Deadadvantage. Say your customerstells you she is
silence. He thought thatmaybe the others didn'tusing Acme brand material ( your competitor ). If
hear him. So, he waited till a few more jokesyou reply with "Youare using Acme brand?" with
were numberedand shouted out, as loud as hethat upward inflexion in your voice, I can just
could, "66!" Again, just silence? This happened toaboutguarantee you that your client will ask
himabout five times."What's wrong with Acme brand?". To whichyou
The next morning he just had to find out why nocan just reply "Oh, nothing." They will, of course,
one laughed at his numbers. He wentto the oldstill be wondering what'swrong with that brand.
man again and asked him. "Why does no oneCareful use of the command tonality can be very
laugh at my jokes?"effective in selling too but it's use istoo big a topic
The old man replied, "Ahhh, it's the way you tellto cover here in this eZine.
them."Let's talk about what you do with your body
On a serious note, the way you say somethingwhen you're presenting ideas to people.
has a big bearing on how that statementisMichael Grinder from the USA teaches about
perceived and reacted to.patterns of communication. He saysthere are two
Two studies that I know of have documentedpatterns namely Credible or Approachable.
non-verbal aspects of communication.The Credible Style of communication is best for
Bob Birdwhistle, ("Kinesics & Communication")sending information; to increaseimportance; to
and Albert Mehrabian both studiednon- verbalexpress vehemence. This Credible style uses the
communication and came up with the followingdownward intonationat the end of each sentence
assessment. ( Note( or at least holding the tone constant ). In terms
Mehrabian has summarised his works and theof bodyposition this style is characterised by
work of some others in a book entitledstillness. The head is held still, the body isstraight,
"Silent Messages")the arms should be at the side or parallel to the
Communication is:ground with weight on bothfeet and toes pointed
7% verbal,forward.
38% tonal,The Approachable Style of communication is used
55% physiological.when you are seeking information.
That is, only 7% of the message received whenIt uses a more rhythmic tempo with upward
you communicate with someonecomes from thevoice intonation at the end of eachsentence. In
actual words you use. Whereas, 93% comesterms of physiology it is characterised by much
from your tone andactions.more movement. Thehead often bobs; the body
You make be doubting the validity of thoseleans forward; hand gestures abound; weight
figures and frankly I do too. However, Isure knowoften shiftingfrom foot to foot.
that when I was growing up that if my motherWhen you want to get your message across, and
shouted out "Gregory !!!!",it meant more than justhave your best chance of beingbelieved,
my name. I knew I was in trouble for something.communicate using the Credible Style.
Similarly, think about some of the comedians youWhen seeking information and establishing rapport
know that stand up on stage andmake a living outuse the Approachable Style.
of insulting people or making fun of them, yetOf course, like many other sales techniques, it
they rarely offendpeople. It's all in the tone theytakes practice to master them.
use !By the way, I just thought of another joke. 66. (
Think about the intonation we use in uttering aAre you laughing?)
sentence. Basically, we have threechoices. As weHappy practicing. Here's to YourSalesSuccess.